What Do Couples Quarrel About?

Hello guys, I know some of you have written to me that you love my previous post about cabin crew and that you wish to see more of such posts. Thing about talking about crew life is that it can get a little bit tricky (with the airline I was with) and thus a lot of thought needs to go into it when I write posts about crew/airline. I will definitely have more posts on crew life (seeing that that post alone actually raised a readership of almost 5k within a week and had strangers adding me on facebook - wow!), but today I'm going to write about relationship - again... :)

I saw this on facebook the other day... (sorry friend, your facebook posts are just too brilliant!)

So what do couples usually quarrel about?

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For my husband and I, the list is as follows:

1) When we talk about Singapore's politics - sure quarrel, like an atomic bomb dropped between us. I guess most of my friends know I'm "riding with the lightning" (I have friends who "don't friend me" anymore over it too *roll eyes*).. oh wells.

2) When I laugh at his super funny mistakes, like this once he told me to call Helping Hand while he was driving...

Me "Dear I can't find Helping Hand's number on your phone!"

Louis "Try searching 'hand' la"

And then I LOL and showed him what he saved Helping Hand as in his contacts...

He got dulan and said "I cannot hear properly la!"

And then of course I continue to LOL cos what has hearing got to do with saving his contacts wrongly right... 

3) When I ask him to do something but he is lazy to...especially cooking for me, cos this is what I think (most girls would too I'm sure)...

But in reality...

Look at his LJ face cos I made him cook me soup for causing me to miss dinner!

*Slap u then u know ah laulan!*

(Everyone knows this is his signature face which is also damn hilarious.)

4) His bad temper and stubbornness...here's a proof that he does have a bad temper and is stubborn cos he admitted to his shortcomings in Jan 2012!

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Of cos he doesn't admit to his wrongs anymore, the most is "Sorry lor?"... :(

5) Housework - or the sudden realization of the lack of it.

"Eh why the house like that ah, what did you do?!"

"What me, why you never ask why you never do??"

"Eh I got do ok, every time I do one but last week I was super busy you knew what! You cannot help out meh?"

6) When we make big plans but it didn't happen for some reason...

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"You see lah wake up so late, missed it again!"

"You were the one who told me to snooze the alarm ok!"

"Who ask you last night insist on watching Walking dead until 3am?!"

7) The choices we have to make...

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"We should go left! I remember the last time we turned this way!"

"But the instructions the concierge gave was to turn right!"

"You wanna bet?"

"The concierge google for it; he can't be wrong!"

"YOU WANNA BET??"

(OH! My hubby is a very big fan on the question "You wanna bet?" I actually won $50 for winning a bet on an argument on who's right or wrong about our friend's car.)

8) And sometimes it got to a point where...

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And I swear I would start to snicker, which makes my hubby even more mad.

So what are the other reasons couples quarrel about?? I saw these polls while googling for photos...

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I would say arguing about what to eat while on a date is probably a more Singaporean (or Asian) thing..? Cos I don't see it pop up in any of the polls. Personally I never have issues with where or what to eat in any of my relationships, perhaps cos I'm such a foodie. :p

But why do couples have to quarrel?? We watch all that Korean dramas where the couples "love until want to die" (direct translation from Chinese ai4 de2 si2 qu4 huo2 lai2) or went through tremendous amount of hardships to finally be together...and we cry 2 boxes of tissue when the couple finally got together but the girl has got cancer or is blind or something dramatic...

Do you think they squabble about the toilet seat cover after that?

"I've finally found you! Let's never part again!"

"I love you too...but...*sob* can you remember to put the toilet seat cover down after you use?"

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Evil slut in the plot "Come and be with me, I don't mind sitting on the toilet bowl with no cover, I don't mind licking it too."

If couples say they love each other till the end of time and wedded because they cannot be without each other, then why still squabble over stupid things??

This quote is complete bullshit IMO.

So think about it, I'm sure nobody likes quarreling with their partners. If one party were to give in to the other then the squabble would have been avoided. But if no party is willing to take the step back and let go of nitty-gritty things like who is going to do the dishes (or be on top) tonight, then I guess there will bound to be squabble everyday because both parties are so used to quarreling that they don't see the importance of harmony in the relationship anymore.

I used to not know when to give in too, like if I want my hubby to quit smoking he'd have to quit immediately. I didn't see that placing my hubby's health before the health of our marriage can also be a problem. But recently I have found myself very zen about a lot of things, like (For Example only) if my hubby is feeling too lazy to give me a lift to my mom's place even though he's free, I would say "oh nevermind lor, I take train." Or when he had a bad day at work and stomped into the house wanting to vent his frustrations, and say "eh why you fry chicken wings later I sore throat!", I would say "oh then you want minced pork instead, I go steam now?"

And I realized that when I do this, my hubby also tone down his temper a lot. Maybe it makes him think, "eh why she today siao one, never argue back..", or maybe it makes him feel a tad bit guilty and also want to be nicer in the relationship.

In any way, I think most people get into relationship/marriage with the mindset that it would be everlasting and they would grow old together, loving each other till death do them part.

So I hope you guys will think about it and maybe ask yourself if it's really necessary to insist on buying that $3000 sound system that your wife isn't too happy about or make your boyfriend who stays in Jurong go buy Punggol Nasi Lemak for you at 1am when you know he's bound to show up with a black face later.

And I hope my marriage will live see to this day when we are in our 60s! :)